Day 27 :: Open as a …

Yesterday, I asked you how your communication was with your spouse.

Now, whether your answer was:

“spouse? haven’t talked with them in days…”


“there isn’t anything we don’t talk about!”

I have something I think you should do. In fact, if I were your teacher and you were my student, I would assign this for your homework.


Fortunately, neither of us are in those positions with each other…which makes this all the more fun.

In order to cultivate increased communication with your spouse, write down what you think your spouse’s answers would be for the following questions:

  1. What is the happiest thing that has ever happened to you?
  2. What has been the hardest experience of your life?
  3. What are your secret ambitions and goals in life?
  4. What are your deep fears?
  5. What traits of mine would he/she like to see changed?
  6. What does he/she appreciate about me the most?
  7. What person(s) does he/she most admire?

Okay. Are you done with that step?

Now go on a date (or sit on the couch …or talk on the phone) and ask them for their answers.
(Note: do not tell them what you think they will say. that’s cheating. and it will give you an F in the course.)

After they’re done, (if they’re still in a good mood) ask them to answer the questions about you.

Since I have no way to know if you really will do this or not, allow me to give my highest recommendations that you do this “homework.”

I did it and it was awesome.

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*Communication questions taken from Creative Counterpart by Linda Dillow. (pages 242-243)


  1. Christina says:

    I want to do this! But David is soo NOT a “lets ask each other questions/analyze our relationship” person 🙂 So maybe I will do ONE question a date. 🙂

    And tell him you told me too 😉

  2. Christa says:

    hahaha…don’t think of it as an “analyzing” thing. I hate it when people do those things to me. just think of it as some really great questions you want to know the answers to! 🙂

  3. Chelo @ Home and Bahay says:

    Seth and I had such a wonderful conversation over the phone today. I asked him the questions and we spent over an hour just talking laughing AND crying (mainly me, ahem, because I’m a cry baby and I miss my baby). I read that book when we were first married and I remember asking him the same questions. It is so amazing to look back at the LORD’s mercies, and grace. And how we change and how the HE helps us change and grow.
    Thank you for these posts.


    PS. We’re both really missing Richmond this fall season. We talked about our good memories at Monument Ave races and HBC friends and family.

  4. Christa says:

    Chelo, I love this. I am so so glad. We had a really special conversation when we went over these questions too. It’s just wonderful to work on knowing your spouse instead of just assuming they’re the same they were the day you got married. I’ve changed a lot since then (good thing, too – praise the Lord!!!) 😉 so why do I assume my hubby’s desires (etc.) are still the same? A good reminder for me too. Thanks so much for sharing. Only a little longer and you’ll be reunited! What a happy day that will be…

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