Day 21 :: Priorities

Are you having fun yet? 😉

I don’t know about you, but I am loving all this advice on dating! These couples know their stuff! Here again is a special wife sharing something that works well in their marriage:


“I adore it when my husband makes me feel as though
there is nothing he would rather do than spend time with me.
We have discovered that if we don’t make our marriage relationship a priority,
there will always be something else that someone else expects us to do, attend, take care of, etc.
Dates work well for us – but even these can sometimes be hard to squeeze in (especially last Spring when his Dad was dying, and now as his Mom is fighting cancer).  Respecting the person that God made your spouse to be is also important – even though I don’t really care for Nascar racing, I love it when he feels he can take an hour or two to relax and watch a race (and I try really hard to sit with him – – – even if I almost always fall asleep!).  I really believe that marriage is a continually evolving relationship and that if we both rely on our Lord (and take our issues to Him) He will guide us and strengthen our marriage.”

~ from Judy, married 23 years

I love that part near the beginning:

“If we don’t make our marriage relationship a priority, 
there will always be something else that someone else expects us to do.”

Have you found that to be true in your marriage? I know I have! Dates don’t just “plan themselves.” Especially once you have kids, you really have to make dates a priority – or else they’ll never happen!

Respecting your spouse is also important (especially if you’re the wife! “let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:33). One way you can do that is to take an interest in what they love…even though it might not be your cup of tea.

My husband is a great example of this. I have a lot of varied interests and, of course, love to share my new “finds” and ideas with him. In fact, the other weekend, we were driving through a subdivision and I saw the fateful sign, “Parade of Homes.” 😉

{cue the male cringe & female squeal}

Of course, being the normal female I am, I asked if we could stop and look at the house. My kind hubby not only let me stop, but he actually came with me and told me it was interesting. 🙂 Although, he did mention before we got out of the car, “This is not my idea of a fun time.” 😉 haha…I love him all the more for it!

So, are you making your marriage a priority?

How can you take an interest in something your spouse loves?

It may be going to a parade of homes or doing a puzzle. But if it’s watching football with him, just try not to look like this:



See you tomorrow for our Dating Party!!!

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  1. Hehehe I married Al because he is as uninterested in sports as I am. Well, not really, but it’s nice that the Lord threw that in for me 🙂 I’m loving each day of your 31 days of Building Your Marriage – each day’s post is a blessing. Thanks for sharing!

  2. Jess W says:

    Oh, Christa, you are a girl after my own heart!

    “Have you found that to be true in your marriage? I know I have! Dates don’t just “plan themselves.” Especially once you have kids, you really have to make dates a priority – or else they’ll never happen!”

    Amen! Amen! Hear ye! Hear ye! If you want a formula for a good marriage in this day and age, this is where its at! After 23 years of very blissful marriage, I can heartily attest to this. Our steadfast committment to weekly dates are what built our marriage into the amazing marriage it is today.

    And don’t buy into the idea that you can do dates with kids. That’s crazy. Surefire way to destroy your marriage. Could’ve happend to us. I have a former friends whose daughter says she practices that attachment parenting junko philosophy, and I have to say that is one of the fastest ways to get to a DETACHED marriage! Ha! Came up with that myself, but it’s true! You might THINK you’re helping your kids, but in the end when they’re gone 30 years from now…will she even know her husband? Um, no. Not without PRIORITAZATION of the marriage, and not without SCHEDULED DATES. Marriage doesn’t just happen.

  3. Jess W says:

    Oh, I thought I would also mention, on the wifely respect, you would probably love a book called “Created to Be His Helpmeet” by Debi Pearl. It is the BEST book on marriage for wives to read. I see you have a little girl and another on the way. You might also benefit from their book “To Train Up A Child,” though we supplemented that with our kids with GKGW, we believe that to be superior as it gets kids to sleep through the night within a couple of weeks. That’s also VERY important for marriages, to get babies to sleep all night VERY early on, and believe I’ve done it with ALL my kids. They might cry for several hours a night at first, but what husband wants a wife who is tired all the time? And before you know it, they’ll be sleeping through the night. That might make the wife cry all night if she is tired, and no husband wants a wife crying all the time. HA! Better to have the babies do that when they’ll grow up sleeping well and never remember the crying days. Maybe you can do a series on that when your new little one is born. Have you read either of these books?

  4. Christa says:

    Hey Jess! Good to connect with you! I haven’t read To Train Up a Child, but a friend of mine loved the Created to Be His Helpmeet book. So glad you have been able to glean some useful info from them. I love reading and finding out about great books – it’s such great way to borrow brains!

  5. Christa says:

    haha!!! My hubby isn’t much of a sports fan either. But I do love to watch a good game of football and so I think we make a good team. 😉

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