Day 12 :: The “D” Word

Do you have any “off-limits” words in your marriage?

Check out what these 2 couples shared:

“During the first few years of our marriage, we had to work through a LOT of misunderstands.
When you’ve been single for seeming forever, and have always done everything your own way … you will definitely clash trying to live together.
Whenever things got really upsetting, hubs would say to me, “Remember, divorce is NOT an option!”
Somehow that always kept me focused on working through the problem instead of running away from it.”

~Al & Mary, married 19 years


And from Barbara:

“One thing we never did was joke about getting a divorce.
Divorce is a serious issue, and one we did not feel was grounds for even joking about.”

~ Barbara, married 34 years


I think these verses say it best:
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.
So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Matthew 19:5-6 

Is there anything you and your spouse won’t joke about? 



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  1. When we were getting marriage counseling before we got married, that is one thing we were told… not to even JOKE about divorce. Since it really doesn’t take much for a joking word to snowball and all of a sudden there’s a major issue! 🙂

  2. Christa says:

    Very true! One time I joked about it before my hubby & I got married, and received strict instructions never to do so again. I’m glad. 🙂

  3. becky says:

    Two of our off-limit words are “always” and “never,” at least when we are having “discussions.” 😉

  4. Yes, I’ve heard this before and we follow the rule never to use or joke around with the d word.

    We joke about a lot of things, but nothing related to that. And we have also tried to make a conscious effort to never, even in a joking manner to put down the other person in public. Sure, we might joke in private, but not public.

  5. Christa says:

    That’s great advice, Betsy. It’s easy to say something (especially when it makes others laugh) that actually hurts more than you even realize. thanks for the reminder.

  6. Karen-lyn says:

    Received sage advice from a “mother-figure” during my college years. NEVER, NEVER speak a negative word about my spouse to anyone, not my Mom, my best-friend, our kids not to anyone. Gossiping about a spouse taints the opinion of the listener about someone. If there is a problem, the only ones to discuss it with is my spouse and GOD, the only ones who can rectify the situation!
    -Celebrating 13 years

  7. Jess W says:

    I love this! I totally agree about the d word. Someone gave us that advice, too. When our first child was born, we also agreed not to talk about our kids while on dates without our kids. It might sound a little crazy especially when the kids are young for the mamas, but I have been amazed at the success and how it has helped our marriage. Kids are blessings, but when they threaten to infiltrate your relationship with your spouse, it’s time to take action!! Train them from when they are young that there is NO greater relationship that the one you can have with your spouse.

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