Day 11 :: Who Comes First?

 “One thing that helps is to always put your spouse  before yourself.”

~ Gertrude, married 50 years


Who comes first in your marriage?

Is it you – or your spouse?

I think my natural inclination is to think that I put my husband first. But think about it this way…

what have you done today to demonstrate that you put your spouse’s needs and desires before your own?


You could say it like this:

“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit,
but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.
Let each of you look not only to his own interests,
but also to the interests of others. ”
Philippians 2:3-4

To be fair, this verse does not apply exclusively to the marriage relationship. It applies to every relationship you have! But apply it to your relationship with your spouse:

Do you count your husband to be more significant than yourself?

I hereby issue a challenge for myself (but you can join along if you want):
Today, I will look for 1 specific thing I can do for my husband that puts him before me. And…biggest deal…I won’t explain why I’m doing it. 🙂

I don’t know what I will do…maybe it will be giving him the lesser burnt piece of pie. 😉 If you decide to join in the challenge, let me know what you get to do for your spouse!!

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  1. Jennifer says:

    I get up 15 minutes earlier than I would have to to pack Seth’s lunch and when his alarm goes off at 5:45am I give him a back scratch before he rolls out of bed. I’m not really awake when I’m doing all of this but when I think back through my morning after I get to work I’m always glad I do those little things ;P

  2. Laine says:

    So true…it’s extremely easy to be blinded in marriage and think we are always putting our spouse first when really we aren’t!

    Today, when my hubby wanted to head to the woods before the sun came up and stay out for about an hour (he can hunt behind our home) and then come back and rush off to work, I was able to give him an enthusiastic “Sure, Honey!” and smile. =) Didn’t exactly want to at the time, but God’s grace is sufficient, isn’t it?! It’s so much better to be a cheerful, unselfish wife. =)

  3. Christa says:

    love that, Laine. It is better (although sometimes a lot more difficult!) to be an unselfish wife. so glad the Lord helped you this morning!!

  4. Wow. That’s a good idea. Actually, my husband and I were discussing this earlier today – how to help him have something ready for lunch when he goes out the door. I need to do this. If not in the morning, than maybe the evening before.

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